A lot of people have found my blog by searching for the term “sexting.” So I’m going to provide you some actual insight on it, because I imagine most people searching the topic are overly concerned parents.
Sexting apparently is a “fad” for today’s teenagers and is becoming a huge “problem.”
(Side question: Did something big just come out about sexting, because this is getting a ridiculous amount of views…just curious. Anyone know?)
If you go to any news site, you will find articles telling you how to protect your children from “sexting” and ways to talk to your kids about it. You will also find ridiculous lawsuits being filed against teens who are sexting. It’s all very silly.
When I was in middle school, which seems to be the age that most parents are concerned about, only the cool kids had cell phones and no one was texting, but that didn’t stop anyone. We had AIM and Yahoo Chat. Although I didn’t do the whole “cyber sex” thing, that didn’t mean kids weren’t. I knew a lot of girls who did it and hey, that’s cool. There were countless Monday mornings when someone would come running in before the bell and tell you who got a blow job that weekend. Teenagers don’t need cell phones and dirty text messages to get the job done, it’s just the newest way to accomplish it. So concerned parents everywhere, be responsible and tell you kids about safe sex, don’t take their phones away and say they have to wait till marriage.
Fastest way to fuck up your kid? Restrict them and tell them lies about sex. Remember Coach Carr from Mean Girls “If you have sex, you’re going to get pregnant and die.” It was hilarious because sadly so many kids are told that. Tell your kids to wrap it up and wait until they are ready. If they want to wait till marriage that’s great, but they shouldn’t because you want them too.
Your kids are going to sext if they want to, they’re gonna tell each other dirty things on-line, they’re gonna pass dirty notes to each other, but they are in middle school, how dirty can it really be? I didn’t learn how to be really awesomely dirty until well into college.
Now the one thing I can agree on is the whole nude photo swapping on cell phones. I respect it for people who are older than 18 (I’ve definitely done it, now slightly regretting it) but even then you should be smart about it (I wasn’t). But the 14 year old girls sending naked photos to their boyfriends, who then are sharing them with the world, ya that’s not too cool. Mainly because of course the 14 year old boy is going to show all his friends, if he could keep it to himself, then I don’t think it would be a problem. Because hi, parents, your son has already groped those slightly developed twins his girlfriend is growing, so what’s the problem if he has a picture of them? And you damn well know he has already discovered pornography and has been looking at it for at least a year now, so he probably has lots of booby pictures.
The point is, parents, that your kids are at the age when they want to know all about sex and experience it, but the percentage of kids who are actually probably having sex isn’t as high as you think it is. And no oral sex is not sex. I didn’t lose my virginity or give oral sex until I was eighteen. My parents told me all about sex when I was six. They were intelligent and told me how to be safe and that when I needed birth control to say something. They were always okay with discussing it with me and never said “you should wait till marriage, instead they said, “just do it when you’re ready.” Some of you may think that’s irresponsible, I think they did a damn good job. I waited until I was in a relationship and was safe about it. And although I mainly write about sex now, I’m not dumb about it or do it to fuel my self esteem. I do it because I love sex and love myself.
Your kids are probably masturbating and hello, that’s the easiest and greatest way to learn about yourself. They probably are texting and although I am already sexually confident and happy with myself, I learned more about myself and became more confident in it because of sexting. I know exactly what I want now and how to talk about it and get it. And yeah, they are young, but the earlier you can become confident in yourself the better.
So if you’re worried about it, talk to your kids about it and stop searching blogs and websites to investigate the issue. Although the means of communication have changed over the years, teenagers haven’t. They all wanna see what happens when you touch something, it’s human nature and raging hormones. Trial and error my friends. You want your kids to be safe and not get pregnant and that’s understandable, so just sit them down and talk. And alluding to the fact that you think you’re daughter is doing it to “fit in” or to improve her self-esteem is pretty much bullshit and you know it. They are doing it because they want to. Tell them not to send pictures of themselves because it’s not a safe idea and they can get charged with child pornography. Tell them they shouldn’t have sex until they feel like they are ready. Just be real about parents, it’s easy and one day your kids will thank you.
Just a another friendly public service announcement from Shro
